feelings – DIANIX JOURNEY

17/01/21

These days when we’ve been suffering from the inclemency and consequences from a ruthless virus and we’ve changed our perspective to see the world and also our projects, goals and dreams have had to wait or maybe we’ve had to take a step forward and change our mindset and perception of everything. Then, I ask myself: How are people facing this situation? Every individual is different and there are extrovert and introvert people. How people who used to do activities every day, socializing and interacting with others, suddenly they had to change their routines and follow the guideline “stay at home” and “curfew”?

Probably for some people to deal with this reality have been easier than others. However, it’s clear that the monotony and routine trigger different behaviors and on some occasion mental diseases and disorders.

I have a friend who had Covid-19 and days after he developed bipolar disorder (he had a history of this disease). I don’t know if that was a consequence of the lockdown that he had to face or just a coincidence. Luckily, he’s now in rehabilitation and recovering slowly.

Fortunately, every cloud has a silver lining and just as there are wayward people whose actions go against the laws and rules on the other hand many people are creating strategies to motivate each other in a healthy way. For example, this week I watched a catchy video on YouTube called “The Wellerman” which is a sea shanty “a type of work song that was once commonly sung to accompany rhythmical labor on board large merchant sailing vessels”. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sea_shanty.

“Nathan Evans, a 26-year-old postman and aspiring musician from outside Glasgow, is credited with having started the “ShantyTok” trend with his rousing rendition of Wellerman, posted in late December (…)

In the US and UK, Wellerman’s surprise popularity is being held up as evidence of the mental toll of months-long lockdown (…) the Covid lockdowns have put millions of young [people] into a similar situation that young whalers were in 200 years ago: confined for the foreseeable future, often far from home, running out of necessities, always in risk of sudden death, and spending long hours with no communal activities to cheer them up.” https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jan/15/shantytok-how-a-19th-century-seafaring-epic-inspired-a-covid-generation

This hopeful song shows me another face in how people cope with their problems. This is the link to this addictive song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UgsurPg9Ckw

As well as that catchy song I have seen other resources which help people to be aware of their emotions and address the current crisis using some alternatives through activities like: dancing, painting, singing, cooking, doing exercise, reading or assisting to virtual courses to mentioned some of them. Personally, I have developed some habits like reading, cooking and doing exercise. I love to do spinning on my static bike, I just play a song which has flow and I do my routines, when I’m on my bike my mind flies and my endorphins are released. Of course, all of this depends on each person’s preferences, resources and interests.

My fellas, I recommend you to use your skills and resources, we are all different for sure, but using communication and talking about your feelings and thoughts. If you have access to the Internet take advantage of social media, there are value information that can help you to deal with this difficult period and finally, I always write about this point but I prefer to repeat it over and over again: use your social networks i.e., family, friends, coworkers, fellows, community, etc.

Last but not least, I want to dedicate this post to my friend AD and all people who had lost hope sometime in this difficult time. Well, I wrap up this write for today. Have a good one.

DARR.

29/09/2020

Taking the determination to end a relationship is an important decision because it’s to close a period and starting a new life alone and with new expectations.

There are different motives to break up with someone, for example people can idealize their couple or the relationship becomes toxic or merely the infidelity appears. Meanwhile, a bittersweet flavor and in many occasions the extreme heartbreak are the main character in this history and then the pain in the chest and the absolute sadness are a consequence of this heartbreak. Then, I ask the question: What’s the recipe for recuperating from extreme heartbreak?

First of all, the heartbreak is a loss like a mourning and therefore each person needs time to recover. If the person wants to cry and get the feelings off the chest that’s healthy. However, having constant isolation and being alone for a long time isn’t the best way. The most important thing is to fill in the mind with new activities and that depends on the interest of each person: listen to music, read books about resilience, motivation or self-improvement, for example, exercise, go to the movies or hang out with friends. There is a proverb which says: “One nail drives out another”. From my point of view the proverb applies not just with starting a new relationship but having an open mind and turning over a new leaf.

Another recommendation is holding the head up, no matter what was the motive of this heartbreak, but all the time trust in yourself and having a high self-esteem. Some people believe that they had the fault and responsibility of that situation but if a relationship doesn’t work it’s due to both.

Finally, all people are different some of them are emotional other are rational and therefore the way to face a problem (in this case a heartbreak) is different because that depends on the resources of each one. The most important thing is remembering that “The darkest hour is just before the down”.

DARR.

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The Recipe For Recuperating From Extreme Heartbreak