Tag: attitude

Mental- Health, Personal Development, Self-Help, self-improvement, Success, Wellness

The Darkest Hour Is Just Before The Dawn

dianangelika0607

15/02/21

Today I’m going to start my writing with a quote that caught my attention: At all times in life, you either affect people with your greatness or you will infect them with your mediocrity. (Li Chun Young).

Certainly, not all days are equal and things don’t go our way, we can have goals that can be late more than we expect and it can bring frustration and bad thoughts. However, I fully trust that our mindset and the way that we face every day have to do with our results. There are many external factors which we can’t control, but on the other hand we have the power to drive our thoughts and actions. For example, when we start a new week and it’s Monday, we can have the perception that starting a new week with the same routine after a long weekend is boring and demotivating, but the other side of the coin can show us it’s a new begin with other opportunities and possibilities to learn, create or do something new.

My mom used to tell me that the words have power and I completely agree. If you go outside to the office, school or wherever you need to go and each step that you do it’s a complaint and the words that you use are with a negative vibe surely, you’ll perceive the world in the same way. At the same time that attitude can generate a bad atmosphere with the people who are close to you and the worst is it affects your own results.

From my experience, I’ve had difficult times where the only thoughts were negatives and it had driven me to have low confidence in myself and the accomplishments that I wanted. The only way to keep going is changing the chip of my mind and try to think in all the best of myself and the resources and skills that I have. However, all extremes are bad because I remember a chapter of the Tv Series Friends where there is a character with excessive optimism and enthusiasm. That situation turns uncomfortable for him and the people who are around him because his positivism is so extreme. I’m sharing the link with part of this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_INzlg-fQlI

Regarding that Friends chapter and other similar situations, I always say that we need a balance in our life. I know not everything is a bed of roses, we have trials and tribulations and there are people who have more challenges than others but I’m completely convinced in the mind’s power and the way to try the good things of life and not to be a sad sack every moment.

I just listened to Podcast number 38 of the course that I’m doing: Real Life English and I felt really identified with that pool of knowledge about this topic and Ethan said something that I liked: “If you’re learning a language, you can have a really negative attitude like I’m never going to get fluent, or I’m just making mistakes all the time or you know my English really sucks. Or you can be really positive you can say ‘Hey I’m going to keep making a bunch of mistakes, but I’m correcting them, I’m getting better.” That is the case when learning a language but everything in life is the same, you can have ups and downs and you’re the only person that has the answer to overcome those situations and also, you can infect other people with your good vibe and greatness and encourage them too. In my case, I try to motivate people sharing my experiences and writing these posts as a way of mutual learning.

So, I hope this new post would be a support for you and let me know your comments and experiences about it. Have a fantastic day!

DARR

knowledge, Mental- Health, Personal Development, Self-Help, self-improvement, Success, Wellness

No Time, No Money

dianangelika0607

24/01/21

When people want to reach a goal or they have the expectations to do something important many times I’ve heard that the main pretext to achieve something is the lack of time or money. Actually, from my experience I’ve had to wait or postpone something for those two reasons and I know, not always it’s the precise time to do something that we want.

However, those words: time and money, can be a barrier and a mental pretext that humans create because in many occasions to leave the comfort zone is a risk that many of us want to avoid. We want to be comfortable with a known environment, the stimuli and resources and doing a step forward is a challenge because we don’t know if to take that risk will be the best decision but, in my country, we say: “El que no arriesga un huevo no gana un pollo” or in other words “Nothing ventured, nothing gained”. In many situations to face the unknown can have awards in the future.

Regarding the absence of time, it is very important to organize it and at the same time to have strategies to optimize and take advantage of every moment. Procrastination is a bad habit as the laziness or invention of excuses. Sometimes it is because we don’t know the tools to organize our schedule but there are many options which can help you to be productive and the use of them depends on if you’re a conventional or practical person. Some of those can be: Google calendar, agendas, alarms, time planners or reminders. Here is an interesting article about this topic and I think it’s very useful as a complement of this important theme: https://www.spica.com/blog/best-time-management-tools

About the money, this is an important point and more now that we’re in a time of pandemic many companies went bankrupt or they are dealing with the economy and many people have had to change their jobs, many of them were laid off and therefore the financial situation can be a huge problem. Nevertheless, in many cases the lack of money is because people don’t have financial culture and they prefer to live in the moment- the here and now, forgetting their future and everything that involves retirement and having a livelihood for tomorrow. In many situations people spend more money than they have and the credit system is the way to deal with that but sometimes this issue becomes a nightmare where people are living to pay debts and this failure obscures the possibility of a promising future. Thus, my advice to go swimmingly financially is using some strategies like: saving money, spending less money than you earn, investing or creating simple and achievable business that help you to earn some extra income. 

So, the absence of money and time have a common element which is organization and discipline, where people can use some resources and habits which can help them to fulfill their goal. The most important thing is if you have an objective you should have the mindset and commitment to do it. I always write about the importance of our mindset and attitude but those elements move people. I am completely aware about the external factors and stimuli which influence our days and decisions but the message that I want to leave in this writing is when something depends on your actions and way to see the world then try to be assertive and use your time and money in the best way.  

DARR.